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网年 文:施训洋 我老家有一个传统，大年初一的早上各家男主人要挨门逐户拜年，俗称网年。小孩子更是一户不落地从村东走到村西，又从村南走到村北，总是走在大人前头拜年、讨小糖。 网年，起着化解恩怨、缓和矛盾的作用。网年，是有讲究的，先到左邻右舍，再到本家弟兄，最后挨着趟儿。 儿时，我的父辈总是不睦，时常为着鸡毛蒜皮的事争吵不休。身为长兄的父亲一味忍让并未换来叔叔们的尊重，反而变本加厉。 大年初一，父亲和母亲总让我和两个姐姐先去给叔叔、婶婶拜年，而后自己再去网年，以此来缓和关系。我的堂弟、堂妹还有叔叔、婶婶也会上来拜年，一大家子又和好如初。每年正月，成了我们这个家族最具温度的一段时光。 过完正月，叔叔们又开始为着小事和父母争吵，甚至打斗，而父亲从不反抗。我不止一次问父亲，他总是默不作声，问得多了，他只是叹口气说自己是老大。我总觉得父亲这个老大实在有些窝囊，心里总有些愤愤。 父亲见我如此，总是劝导我。人，不怕怂，就怕狠，狠人遇到狠人魔也是莫奈何。你大不是打不过你叔叔，只是不是打能解决的事。 于是，每到大年初一，我又照着父亲所说给叔叔、婶婶拜年。总能维持着正月的温暖，虽然短暂却不输礼节。 父亲重病期间，我叔叔说打断骨头连着筋，吵归吵，心是热的。我至今还记得叔叔在说这句话时眼里满是泪花。 网年，父亲在时，每年在我出门拜年时都会重复一句，能漏一村不漏一户。父亲的话深深地刻在心中。 儿时，总有一、两户人家开门特别迟，我总是竖起耳朵听着鞭炮响起的声音，有时直接等在门前专等那家开门放鞭炮。 我离开村庄住到镇上也有二十多个年头，每年初一都会回老家网年。总记着父亲说的话，一户不落。 有几年，远房姑姑和姑父在离村两里多路的鱼棚过年，刮风下雨我都前去网年。每次去时，姑姑和姑父总是异常兴奋，一个劲儿说着客套话，还拉着拽着留我吃早饭。 最近几年，有位邻居一家在离村较远的山场养羊，山路虽难，我依然领着爱人和孩子们一道前往拜年。那家人也是开心不已，总说我们过情，小糖和香烟一样不少，还送给我们好几十个山场养的土鸡蛋。 村庄留下了时代的烙印，每一年都有新变化。通向村子的路由石子路变成水泥路，摆在桌上的香烟由玉溪变成中华，骑自行车到骑摩托车再到家家户户门前停放着一辆甚至几辆私家车。 我的老家和很多中国乡村一样，经历着城镇化的冲击，成了老人世界，成了空心村。阵痛，让很多人感到前所未有的失落。随着乡村振兴号角的吹响，村子又复活了，回乡创业的青年越来越多，土地流转稳住了许多农民。村子，又有了曾经的烟火气。 村庄，是灵魂最好的栖息地。这里，安放着我的先人，安放着我的祖辈，安放着我的父亲。这里，有我熟悉的山山水水，有我恋恋不忘的故园。 网年，网的是一种情怀，网的是一种记忆，网的是一种念想。 （此文刊发于2022年2月13日《皖西日报》）
Net years Article: Shi Xunyang My hometown has a tradition, the morning of the first day of the New Year to door New Year, commonly known as the net year.Children are a family from the east of the village to the west of the village, and from the south of the village to the north of the village, always walk in front of adults New Year, ask for small sugar. Net year, plays a role in resolving grievances, easing contradictions.Net year, there is exquisite, first to the neighbors, and then to the family brothers, and finally next to the trip. When I was a child, my parents were always unhappy and often quarreled about trivial things.As an elder brother, the father blindly tolerated and did not get the respect of the uncles, but intensified. On the first day of the Chinese New Year, my father and mother always asked my two sisters to pay New Year greetings to my uncle and aunt first, and then went to the Internet year, in order to ease the relationship.My cousin, cousin, uncle and aunt will also come up to pay New Year greetings, a big family and reconciled.The first month of each year became the most warm time of our family. After the first month, the uncles began to quarrel with or even fight their parents for small things, and the father never resisted.I asked my father more than once, he was always silent, asked more, he just sighed and said he was the boss.I always think that my father, the boss, is always a little angry. My father saw me so, always persuade me.People, not afraid of timid, afraid of ruthless, ruthless people meet ruthless demon is also helpless.You are not beat your uncle, just play can solve a problem. So, every year to the first day of the Chinese New Year, I and according to my father said to the uncle, aunt New Year greetings.Always can maintain the warmth of the first month, although short but not lose etiquette. During my father was seriously ill, my uncle said that the bones were broken, and the heart was hot.I still remember my uncle's eyes were filled in tears. Net year, when my father is in, every year when I go out to pay a New Year visit will repeat a sentence, can miss a village do not miss a household.Father's words are deeply engraved in my heart. When I was a child, there are always one or two families to open the door particularly late, I always raised my ears to listen to the sound of firecrackers sounded, sometimes directly waiting in front of the door specially waiting for the door to set off firecrackers. I have left the village to live in the town for more than 20 years, and every year I will go back to my hometown on the first day of the net year.Always remember what my father said, a family does not fall. For a few years, the distant aunt and uncle in the fish shed more than two miles away from the village for the Chinese New Year, I went to the net year in the wind and rain.Every time I went, my aunt and aunt were always very excited, talking polite things and pulling me for breakfast. In recent years, a neighbor's family has raised sheep on a mountain farm far away from the village. Although the mountain road is difficult, I still led my lover and children to pay New Year's greetings together.The family is also happy, always said that we love, small sugar and cigarettes as much, but also gave us dozens of mountain farm raised soil eggs. The village has left the brand of The Times, and it has made new changes every year.The road leading to the village turns from gravel road to concrete road, the cigarettes on the table from Yuxi to China, riding bicycles to motorcycles to one or even several private cars parked in front of every family. My hometown, like many Chinese villages, has experienced the impact of urbanization and become a geriatric world and a hollow village.Pain, let many people feel unprecedented loss.With the sound of the rural revitalization horn, the village has been revived, more and more young people have returned to their hometowns to start their own businesses, and the land transfer has stabilized many farmers.The village, and there is once the fireworks gas. The village is the best habitat for the soul.Here, placed my ancestors and relatives.Here, there are my familiar mountains and rivers, there are I love do not forget the old garden. Net year, the net is a kind of feelings, the net is a kind of memory, the net is a kind of thinking. |
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