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Control. It's extraordinary the tactics people employ to obtain it. Some rely on deception. While others engage in outright trickery. Then there are those who resort to extortion. Why do we fight so hard for control? Because we know to lose it is to put our fate in the hands of others. And what could be more dangerous? 控制. 人们用来夺取它的手段很不寻常. 一些人靠蒙蔽. 另一些人完全依赖欺骗. 还有些靠的是强迫威逼. 我们为什么要这么努力地获得控制权? 因为我们知道如果失去了它就等于让别人掌握我们的命运. 还有比这更危险的吗? 2-03 Everyone enjoys a game of make-believe now and then. Of course, the ways in which we play can vary greatly. Sometimes we tell ourselves work won't interfere with our family life. Sometimes, we imagine certain relationships to be more meaningful than they really are. Occasionally, we put on a show, as if to convince ourselves our secrets aren't really all that terrible. Yes, the game of make-believe is a simple one. You start by lying to yourself… And if you can get others to believe those lies, you win. 从前到现在每个人都热衷于自我安慰的游戏. 当然, 我们玩的方式可以变化多端. 有时我们会告诉自己工作不会干扰家庭生活. 有时, 我们把某些关系想象得过于有意义. 偶尔, 我们假装是在演戏, 来说服自己我们的秘密并不都是那么可怕. 是的, 这个游戏是很简单的. 你首先对自己说谎… 如果你可以让别人相信那些谎言, 你就赢了. 2-04 The world is filled with good fathers. How do we recognize them? They're the ones who are missed so terribly that everything falls apart in their absence. They're the ones who love us, long before we've even arrived. They're the ones who come looking for us when we can't find our way home. Yes, the world is filled with good fathers. And the best are the ones who make the women in their lives… feel like good mothers. 这世界到处都是好爸爸. 我们如何认出他们? 他们是我们深深想念的人, 他们不在时一切都变得不完整. 他们是在我们出生很久之前, 就一直深爱着我们的人. 他们是我们迷路时苦苦寻找我们的人. 的确, 世界上有很多好爸爸. 最好的爸爸是那些让身边的女人… 感觉自己是个好妈妈的人. 2-05 Everyone in the world needs someone they can depend on. Be their faithful friends… determined advocates… or a loving family. But occasionally in life, the people we thought would always be there for us… leave. And if that happens… it's amazing the lengths we'll go, to get them back. 世人都需要一个可以依靠的人. 作为他们忠诚的朋友… 坚定的辩护人… 或者可爱的家人. 但生活中难免的是, 我们认为会一直在身边的人… 离我们而去. 当这样的事发生时… 再要把他们争取回来, 就不那么容易了. 2-06 Yes, every little girl dreams of a big white wedding. But some dreams just don't come true. 是啊, 每个小女孩都梦想着一个盛大的白色婚礼. 但有些梦就是难以实现. 2-07 Yes, cameras are tools designed to capture images. But in truth, they can capture so much more. They can uncover hidden longing of men who should no longer care. They can reveal the extraordinary secrets of the most ordinary marriages. Most amazing of all, cameras can quietly and clearly reveal to us our dreams. Dreams we didn't even know we had. 是的, 照相机是用来捕捉画面的. 可事实上, 它能捕捉到更多. 它能揭示一个从不在意的男人心底隐藏的渴望. 它能泄露最普通婚姻的特殊秘密. 最惊人的是, 它可以在不知觉中呈现我们的梦想. 甚至连我们自己都不知道有过的梦想. 2-08 In a world filled with darkness, we all need some kind of light. Whether it's a great flame that shows us how to win back what we've lost… or a powerful beacon intended to scare away potential monsters… Or a few glowing bulbs that reveal to us the hidden truth of our past. We all need something to help us get through the night. Even if it's just the tiniest glimmer of hope. 在一个黑暗的世界里, 我们都需要某种光. 无论是一团火焰指引着我们赢回失去的东西… 或者是一座有的灯塔驱走潜在的危险… 或是一些炽热的灯泡向我们透露真实的过去. 我们都需要一些东西来帮我们度过黑夜. 即使是一丝最微弱的希望. 2-09 It's not always that easy to distinguish the gold guys from the bad guys. Sinners can surprise you. And the same is true for saints. Why do we try to define people as simply good or simply evil? Because no one wants to admit that compassion and cruelty can live side by side in one heart. And that anyone is capable of anything. 要区分好人和坏人有时并不容易. 罪人会做出令人吃惊的事. 圣人也一样. 为什么要简单地用好和坏来界定人? 因为没有人愿意承认怜悯与残忍是共生共栖的. 任何人都可能做出任何事. 2-10 The stories are as old as time itself. The prodigal son who returns home to the father who forgives him. The jealous wife who tricks the husband who trusts her… The desperate mother who risks everything for the child who needs her. And the faithless husband who hurts the wife who loves him so deeply. Why do we listen again and again? Because these are the stories of family, and once we look past the fighting, pain and the resentment… We occasionally like to remind ourselves… there is absolutely nothing more important. 这些都是老故事了. 流浪的儿子回到原谅了他的慈爱的父亲身边. 吃醋的妻子利用丈夫的信任小小玩弄了他… 尽职的母亲为了需要她的孩子可以冒任何危险. 不忠的丈夫伤害了深爱着他的妻子. 为什么这样的故事百听不厌? 因为这些都是家庭的故事, 每当我们回首往事的那些争吵, 痛苦和怨恨… 我们都会常常自我提醒… 其实再没有什么更重要的了. 2-11 The act itself never varies. But each kiss carries with it a meaning all its own. It can convey a husband's eternal devotion. Or a wife's enormous regret. It can symbolize a mother's growing concern. Or a lover's growing passion. But whatever its meaning, each kiss… reflects a basic human need. The need to connect to another human being. This desire is so strong it's always amazing when some people… don't understand it. 行为基本上是没有区别的. 但是每个亲吻却有各自的含义. 它可以表达一个丈夫永远的挚爱. 或一个妻子的深深悔意. 它可以代表一个母亲的浓浓关爱. 或一个情人的日渐情深. 但是不管意味着什么, 每个亲吻… 都反映了人类的一个最基本的需要. 与别人相连的需要. 这种欲望如此强烈而奇妙的是… 有些人根本不理解它. 2-12
Illness can take on many forms. Those of the body are easy to treat. Much more difficult are the hidden maladies that fester in our heart. The secret addictions that consume our souls. And the diseases we deny which affect our judgment. To survive we need to find that special someone who can heal us. But we can never predict who have the cure for what ails us. Or when they'll show up. 每一种疾病都自有其呈现方式. 表面的症状很容易治愈. 困难得多的是在我们的心里慢慢溃烂的内心的疾病. 侵蚀我们的灵魂的不可告人的沉溺. 以及我们不愿承认的左右我们判断力的疾病. 为了继续生存我们必须找出那个特别的人来治愈我们. 但我们永远都无法预料谁拥有病痛的解药. 或者他们什么时候才会出现. 2-13 Everyone understands the nature of war. We also understand that victory depends on the cards that we have been dealt. Some, when faced with a bloody battle, simply give in. but for some, surrender is unacceptable. Even though they know it will be a fight… to the death. 每个人都清楚战争的本质. 我们也知道胜败就在于手中的这副牌. 一些人, 面对血腥的战争时, 就这样放弃了. 但还有一些, 认输对于他们是无法接受的. 即使他们明白这会是一场… 死战. 2-14 The world is filled with unlikely friendships. How do they begin? With one person desperately in need and another willing to lend a helping hand. When such kindness is offered, we're finally able to see the worth of those we had previously written off. And before we know it, a bond has formed, regardless of whether others can understand it. Yes, unlikely friendships start up everyday. No one understands this more than the lonely. In fact, it's what they count on. 这个世界里到处都有不可思议的友谊. 它们是怎样形成的? 因为有的人一直渴望能得到而 另一个人则十分乐意伸出援手. 在提供这种善意的同时, 我们终于看到从前勾销的那些价值. 不知不觉, 一条纽带就已经建立起来了, 不管其他人是否能够理解. 是的, 不可思议的友谊每天都在凸现. 没有人比孤单的人更了解. 事实上, 这正是他们所期待的. 2-15 Now and then, we all need a little help, so we ask for small favors. But it's always best to be wary of those eager to come to our rescue. Because even the smallest of favors… carries a price tag. Yes, everyone has an agenda. No matter what they may tell us. And in those rare instances where there is no ulterior motive… we're so taken aback that we may fail to recognize the truth… that a loving friend has just done us an enormous favor. 偶尔, 我们都会需要一些帮助, 于是我们请求帮忙. 但是最好还是提防那些热切地伸出援手的人. 因为哪怕只是一点点小忙… 也会有个价码. 是的, 每个人都有自己的安排. 别管他们嘴上说些什么. 而当事情近得不再会别有用心的时候… 我们才会惊觉忽视了一个事实… 一个亲爱的朋友刚刚帮了我们一个大忙. 2-17 At that precise moment, as Dr. Hanson Mills was cutting yet another umbilical cord, other ties were being severed all over town. Like the one between a child and the mother who didn't want him to grow up so quickly… or the one between a case of fine wine and the housewife who hadn't wanted to admit that she had a problem… or the one between a woman and the boyfriend who couldn't forgive her betrayal. The choice to separate from what we love is painful… The only thing worse… is when someone we've trusted makes the choice for us. 就在医生剪断又一条脐带的同时, 这个城镇里还有许多纽带将被切断. 比如一个孩子和不想让她这么快长大的母亲… 或一瓶上好的葡萄酒和那个从来不愿承认自己有问题的主妇… 又如一个女人和无法原谅她背叛的男友. 选择离开我们的所爱很痛苦… 唯一更糟的是… 我们一直深信不疑的人替我们做了另一个决定. 2-18 Temptation comes to all of us. Whether or not we succumb depends on our ability to recognize its disguise. Sometimes it arrives in the form of an old flame, flickering back to life. Or a new friend who could end up being so much more. Or a young child who awakens feelings we didn't know we had. And so we give in to temptation, all the while knowing come morning, we'll have to suffer the consequences. 我们每个人都面临着诱惑. 是否向它所屈服取决于我们识别它伪装的能力. 有时它以一团昔日的火焰出现, 重回生活中闪耀. 或是一个新朋友最后却不止如此. 或一个年幼的孩子唤醒了我们不曾知道拥有过的感觉. 但当我们向诱惑妥协, 明早就会知晓一切, 我们将不得不承受带来的后果. 2-19 We've all done something in our lives we're ashamed of. Some of us have fallen for the wrong man. Some have let go of the right woman. There are those who have humiliated their parents… and those who have failed their children. Yes, we've all made mistakes that diminish us and those we love. But there is redemption if we try to learn from those mistakes and grow. 在一生中我们都会做一些自觉惭愧的事. 我们有些人爱错了男人. 有些人错过了合适的女人. 有些人使他们的父母感到尴尬… 还有些人对不起自己的孩子. 是的, 我们都会犯一些这使我们和那些我们爱的人变得渺小的错误. 但是这些都是可以挽回的, 只要我们从那些错误中吸取教训并成长. 2-20 There is a prayer intended to give strength to people faced with circumstances they don't want to accept. The power of the prayer comes from its insight into human nature. Because so many of us rage against the hand that life has dealt us. Because so many of us are cowardly. And afraid to stand up for what is right. Because so many of us give into despair… when faced with an impossible choice. The good news for those who utter these words is that God will hear you and answer your prayer. The bad news is that sometimes… the answer is no. 有一种祈祷意在给那些面临他们不愿接受的处境的人们以力量. 该祈祷的力量来自于其对人性的洞察力. 因为我们之中太多的人对命运之手拨弄我们的生活大光其火. 因为我们之中太多的人过于懦弱. 并且害怕站出来伸张正义. 因为我们之中太多的人当面临不可能的抉择时… 感到了无比绝望. 好消息是对于那些说出来这些话的人, 上帝能听到你说的并给予回答. 坏消息是有时候… 回答的却是不. 2-21 When the truth is ugly, people try to keep it hidden, because they know if revealed, the damage it will do. So they conceal it within sturdy walls or they place it behind closed doors or they obscure it with clever disguises but truth, no matter how ugly, always emerges… And someone we care about always ends up getting hurt. And someone else will revel in their pain and that's the ugliest truth of all. 当真相丑陋的时候, 人们试图将它隐瞒, 因为他们知道一旦揭露真相, 将带来多大的伤害. 因此他们将它藏在坚实的墙壁里面或是紧闭的房门后面或是用聪明的伪装遮掩它但是真相, 无论多么丑陋, 始终会浮现… 那些我们关爱的人最终总是会受到伤害. 其他人却在得意于别人的苦痛而这才是最丑陋的事实. 2-22 It's a shocking moment for each of us. That moment we realize we're all alone in this world. The family we take for granted could one day abandon us. The husband we trust so * might betray us. The daughter we love so deeply perhaps won't return to us. And then we could end up all by ourselves. Of course, some * alone. For example… 每个人生命中总有震惊的时刻. 在那一刻我们意识到自己在这世界是如此孤独. 我们理所当然地回家却发现只剩下空空的房子… 我们内心深信的丈夫也可能会背叛… 我们深爱的女儿也许不会再回到身边. 于是我们只能自己收拾这一切残局. 2-23 This is the street where I used to live and these were the people with whom I shared my life. I met them the day they moved in… and I saw what they brought with them. Beautiful dreams for the future… and quiet hopes for a better life… not just for themselves, but for their children, too. If I could, would I tell them what lies ahead? Would I warn them of the sorrow and betrayal that lie in store? No. From where I stand now, I see enough of the road to understand how it must be traveled. The trip is to keep moving forward, to let go of the fear and the regret that slow us down and keep us from enjoying a journey that will be over too soon. Yes, there will be unexpected bends in the road, shocking surprises we didn't see coming, but that's really the point. Don't you think? 这是我曾住过的街道, 这些是我曾与之一起生活过的人们. 他们搬来的第一天我们就认识了… 我看到他们带来了什么. 对未来的美好憧憬… 对更好生活的默默祈祷… 不只为他们自己, 也是为他们的孩子. 如果我可以, 我会告诉他们将会面临的一切吗? 我会警告他们将要经历的悲伤和背叛吗? 不. 从我现在的角度, 我能清楚地看到他们将怎样走过各自的路. 旅途在于继续前行, 在于让那些放慢了我们脚步和阻止我们享受短暂旅程的恐惧和悔恨逐渐远去. 是的, 沿路总有崎岖, 总有些预想不到的意外, 但这正是旅途的意义所在. 你觉得呢? |
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