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现在有各种各样的文章、书籍、网站和博客等提及到所谓的个人发展和自我提升方面的问题。 It’s encouraging that there are so many people wanting to make positive changes in their lives and share it with the masses. 我很欣喜能看到这么多人致力为他们的生活作出积极的改变，而且把他们的经验与众人分享。 However, there are also a lot of platitudes out there and I’m guilty of writing a few of them here as well. But there are some things we aren’t told either because people want to be nice, they are trying to remain positive or maybe just don’t get it. So here are a few things that you may be unaware of or maybe just need a bit of a reminder. 然而，也有很多我们经常会听到的陈词滥调，而我也感到很抱歉，因为我会在下面的文章会提到其中的一些段子。但与此同时，也有很多事情我们不会提及，因为人们总想表现出友好、积极的一面，又或者根本就没有意识到。所以下面所说的内容是可能你没有意识到的，也可能是作为对你生活的一点提示。 1. No one’s life is perfect. As perfect as some people’s lives appear to be, I guarantee you that they too have their fair share of blemishes. They may seem to have it all. Large home, 2 cars, good paying jobs and they’re always entertaining large groups of people (if that what having it all really means). Perfect right? Or is it? Are they in debt up to their eyeballs and living well beyond their means? Maybe. If so, maybe the financial pressures are causing strain on their relationship. There is usually a lot more than meets the eye and what may appear to be perfect is rarely so. 1.没有人的生活是完美的。尽管有些人的生活看上去很完美，但我可以向你保证他们的生活也有一定的瑕疵。他们好像拥有一切：面积很大的家、两辆轿车、高薪的工作还有他们总是宴请一大帮亲朋好友（如果这一切都是他们真正拥有的）。很完美对吧？是真的完美吗？会不会他们其实负担着很重的债务，他们的生活其实已经超出他们能承担的能力范围之外？有可能吧。假如是这样的话，可能财政上的压力已经使他们人际交往方面出现问题。有很多东西表面看上去很完美，但很少是真正完美无暇的。 2. Life is never smooth sailing. Life likes to throw you curve balls every now and then. This is normal and remember the world isn’t out to get you. You can think of these bumps in the road as tests to see how badly you want what’s on the other side. There are a lot of things that are out of your control. My advice is to go with the flow, learn from these hurdles, re-evaluate and change course if need be. 2.生活绝不会一帆风顺。生活就像不断向你投曲线球一样，这很正常，因为地球不是围绕着你来转的。你可以把人生旅途中的重重障碍看作是各种考验，它们想看看到底你到达终点时会变得有多糟。生命中很多东西是你不能控制的。而我的建议是：顺其自然地跟着生活的道路走，从每次挫折中吸取教训，重新评估自己是否走对了，如果走错了就及时改变前进的路线吧。 3. Nobody likes a know-it-all. Seriously. There is nothing worse than getting trapped in a conversation with someone who thinks they know everything about everything. I’m sure we’ve all met someone like this and I’m sure you couldn’t wait to escape. It’s okay to admit that you don’t know something. Refrain from blathering on about something you really don’t have a solid understanding of. That old saying that bullshit baffles brains … not really true. 3.没有人喜欢假装博学多才的人。真的，没有什么比跟一个以为自己什么都懂的人交谈更加令人讨厌的了。我相信我们身边都有一个这样的人，我们巴不得躲开这些人。承认自己不是“万事通”并不羞耻。请在你不是很了解某事的时候克制着自己，不要不懂装懂。俗语说“乱拳打死老师傅”……其实是不太对的。 4. Humility is under rated. Some of the nicest people I know are also the most humble people I know. They have done great things with their lives and achieved great things but you would never know it. They are not the first ones to bring up any of their successes and in fact downplay a lot of what they have done. These are the people that have every right to brag and maybe be a bit arrogant, yet they remain humble. 4.谦虚的人往往被人低估。我认识的一些最好的人，通常他们也是最谦虚的人。他们在生命中做了很多伟大的事但你永远不会知道。他们不会是一开始就向人张扬他们成功的那种人，而实际上他们淡化了他们所做的一切。这些人有理由吹嘘自己的成功，甚至理应有点自傲，但是他们仍然保持着低调的作风。 5. Life is more about the journey than the destination. This has the makings of a platitude but hear me out. So you have a destination in mind perhaps it’s being debt free, moving to a new country, or retiring early. A little secret – no one cares as much about this end goal as you do. Once you get to the finish line if you look back and think hmmm…well that was no fun, was it really worth it? If you had taken it slower or viewed things even a tiny bit differently, maybe you could have come out the other end having learned more, or having had more fun. Sacrifice is good when it moves you closer to where you want to be but don’t sacrifice so much such that you don’t enjoy the journey there. 5.体验生活，过程比结果更重要。这是一个老生常谈的话题，但请先听我说完。假设你梦想是脱离债务烦恼、移民去另外一个国家、又或者早早退休享福。让我告诉你一个小小的秘密—没有人会管你有什么梦想呢！当你到达终点再回头看看，你会想：唔…其实也不是很有趣嘛，我这样做真的值得么？如果你放缓脚步，换个角度去观察事物，也许你就会得到另外一个截然不同的结果，你可能会学到很多东西，或者得到更多的乐趣。当你向你所向往的目标进发时，付出是值得的；但当你付出太多的时候，往往就会令你蒙蔽了双眼，无法享受沿途的快乐。 6. People dislike complainers. This is a biggie for me. I am convinced that some people complain just to annoy me, for something to do, or they simply enjoy complaining. When people complain about something but fail to present options on how to solve the problem I tend to get a bit frustrated. If you have no potential solutions try going with the flow and take things as they come. If something is really and truly bugging you try and come up with a few different solutions as to how to solve it. It’s so much more empowering to actually do something rather than simply complain about it. 6．人们不喜欢常常抱怨的人。这对我来说是非常重要的观点。我以为身边的人抱怨是为了令我烦恼、是为了解决某些事、又或者他们就是喜欢抱怨。当人们抱怨某些事情，又无法找出方法解决问题的时候，我往往就会觉得有点沮丧。如果你没有办法解决心中疑惑的时候，尝试着抱着顺其自然、既来之，则安之的心态。如果那个问题真的很令你心烦，令你无法忽略它，那就试试用非主流的方法去解决它。着手去解决问题比站在原地抱怨往往更能够解决问题。 7. Nobody knows everything about everything. This is along the same lines as point three. Granted, there are some people who are very switched on, highly intelligent and know a lot about about a lot of different things, but don’t feel you need to be one of them especially if you’re not. People in general can tell when someone truly knows what they’re talking about and when they are just trying to be a know-it-all. Be genuine and don’t try to live up to something that it is impossible. 7.没有一个人是“万事通”。这个观点和第三点大致相同。假设有些人真的很跟的上潮流、很高智商、而且上知天文、下知地理，但你不必令自己变得跟他们一样啊，尤其当你根本没有潜质成为这种人的时候。一般人们能辨别出哪些人是真正的“万事通”，哪些人只是不懂装懂。做真正的自己吧，别去做一些违背自己意愿和超出自己能力的事。 8. Big rewards usually come after taking a big risk. You’ve likely heard of this in terms of investing. If you invest your money in stocks that are incredibly volatile (high highs and low lows) and are able to ride out the low periods you will likely come out further ahead than if you invested in something “safe”. Same goes for life rewards. If you are willing to put yourself out there, take a huge risk and make some sacrifices you may see very large rewards. This usually means stepping out of your comfort zone and taking chances and the rewards can certainly be well worth it. 8.风险越大，往往收益也越大。你应该在投资的时候听过类似的观点吧。当你在股票市场在一个剧烈震荡的环境下投资（大牛市和大熊市），而且你能安然度过低潮期的时候，你往往得到收益比你在平稳时期投资要丰厚得多。如果你愿意奋不顾身去冒大的风险、作出一定的牺牲，你很可能会收获丰富的报酬。这意味着你要主动放弃安稳的生活，要承担一定的风险，但你的付出通常会得到应有的回报。 9.When something doesn’t make sense you likely don’t have all the facts. This I’ve learned from experience. When you don’t understand what the heck is going on or if someone’s actions just aren’t makings sense, it’s likely you don’t have all the information. Once everything comes out or you are told exactly what is going on it all seems to come together. So before you jump to conclusions and start taking things personally try giving people the benefit of the doubt and extend a bit of patience and understanding. 9.当你觉得有些事不合逻辑的时候，很可能是你没有了解到本质。这条哲理我是从生活过程中领悟出来的。当你发现某个人做的事情根本就没有意义，你完全看不懂为什么他会这样做，这很可能是你没有了解所有的信息。当整件事完全呈现在你眼前，或者有人跟你说这件事的来龙去脉之后，你就会恍然大悟了。所以当你对某件事下定论或者发表个人观点之前，不要太快地先入为主，给自己多一点的耐心，给别人多一点的理解空间。 10. Your turn. What other things do you think to be true but are often glossed over or rarely talked about? I love the honesty. 10.到你发言的时间了。你知道有哪些生活中的被掩盖的、很少提及到的真理？我欢迎大家踊跃地、坦率地告诉我。
本文由谢尔莉(Sherri)于2010年1月投稿 |
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