【读书笔记】Positive Time-Out
(2012-06-07 06:35:21)
书名:Positive Time-out: and
Over 50 Ways to Avoid Power Struggles in the Home and the
Classroom
作者:Jane Nelsen
time-out是美国常用的一种discipline的手段,当孩子犯错的时候,就让孩子单独呆一会儿反省(但实际上就是让孩子一个人在小黑屋里哭)。传统的time-out作为一种惩罚手段存在的,作者质疑该手段是否能真正的让一个两三岁的孩子在time-out的几分钟时间中能充分认识到自己的错误。基于此,作者提出了这个“positive
time-out”的观点:说白了就是把这个time-out的惩罚性去除掉,改为一种能让彼此冷静下来从而更好地找出解决问题的手段。因此作者提出的time-out,可以让孩子自己设定时间,可以让孩子自己选择能让他感觉良好的地方(哪怕在妈妈的怀抱中time-out)。作者认为,只有孩子情绪愉悦的时候,才能更好的接受家长的教导。
喜欢time-out这种方式的父母们,可以读一下。
目录:
1. Time-out: Encouragement or Discouragement?
2. If not Punitive Time-out, Then What?
3. Time-out for Children Under the Age of Reason
4. Punishment and Rewards are not Effective Long-Term
Motivators
5. Understanding the Mistaken Goals of Behavior
6. Will Children Ever Just Mind? A Case for Encouragement
7. Logical Consequences
8. Button, Button, Who's Got the Button? Positive Time-out for
Adults
9. Attitude Tools for Avoiding Power Struggles While Empowering
Children
10. Action Tools for Avoiding Power struggles While Empowering
Children
11. Putting It All Together
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