世上的爱都以聚合为目的,唯独父母对子女的爱以分离为目的。 著名诗人纪伯伦就曾写过一篇《你的子女其实不是你的》,字字恳切,发人深省,每个父母都该仔细读读! 纪伯伦 《你的儿女其实不是你的》 Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you, For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday. You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth. The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far. Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness, For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable. 我们陪着孩子长大,却无法陪着孩子变老; 我们养育孩子的身体,但也要尊重孩子的灵魂。 真正睿智的父母,往往更愿意成为孩子的守护神,而不是掌控者。 父母子女之间,其实就是一场不可避免、漫长的告别。 所以,我们要学着洒脱地放手,子女也要学着独立的生活 |
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