 Mistake 5: Setting "Other People's Goals" 常见错误5：设定了“别人”的目标
某些家庭成员，朋友，甚至你的老板，可能想去影响你设定的目标。也许，他们感觉自己知道什么对于你来讲才是最好的，或者他们想让你采取特定的方式，或者做特定的事情。 Clearly, it's important that you have good relationships with these people, and you need to do what your boss asks, within reason. 当然，要处理好与你的家庭成员，朋友与老板之间的关系，而且，在适当的范围内，你需要去做老板让你去做的事情。 However, your goals need to be your own – not anybody else's. So be politely assertive , and do what you want to do! 不过，你设定的目标应该是为自己而不是为别人而设定。所以，一定要彬彬有礼，充满自信，做自己想要去做的事情。 Mistake 6: Not Reviewing Progress 常见错误6：没有回顾进度
完成目标是要花费时间的，而有时间，你可能会感觉自己并没有取得什么进展。 This is why it's important to take stock of everything that you've accomplished on a regular basis. Set small sub-goals, celebrate your successes, and analyze what you need to do to keep moving forward. No matter how slow things seem, you probably are making progress! 这是为什么要定期把已经完成的所有事情记录下来非常重要的原因。要设置小的子目标，庆祝自己取得的成功，并分析需要做什么来继续前进。不管事情看起来有多么缓慢，你可能都在取得进展！ You can also take this opportunity to update your goals, based on what you've learnt. Have your priorities changed? Or do you need to set aside some extra time for a particular goal activity? 基于自己所学到的，你也可以利用这一机会对目标进行更新。优先级变更了吗？或者，需要为某个特定目标的活动留出一些额外的时间吗？ Goals are never set in stone, so don't be afraid to amend them if you need to. 目标向来不是一成不变的，所以，如果有必须，不要害怕去对目标进行修正。 Mistake 7: Setting "Negative" Goals 常见错误7：设定了“消极”的目标
你如何看待目标可以影响你对它的感受，以及你是否能够达成。 For instance, many people have a goal to "lose weight." However, this goal has a negative connotation; it's focused on what you don't want – your weight. A positive way to reframe this goal is to say you want to "get healthy." 比如，很多人有“减肥”的目标。然而，这个目标有负面的含义，重点是你不想要的东西-你的体重。重塑这个目标的积极方式是要说你想要“健康”。 Another example of a negative goal is to "stop staying late at work." A positive way to rephrase this is to "spend more time with family." 另一个消极的目标的例子是“不要在工作上呆的太晚”。这用积极的方式来表达就是：“要花更多的时间和家人在一起。” Negative goals are emotionally unattractive, which makes it hard to focus on them. Reframe any negative goals so that they sound positive: you may be surprised by the difference this makes! 消极的目标，在情感上是没有吸引力的，这让人很难把注意力集中在目标上。要重新定义消极的目标，使目标听起来积极一些：你可能会感到惊人的不同！ Mistake 8: Setting Too Many Goals 常见错误8：设定了太多的目标
设定目标时，你可能会发现你想完成太多的事情，因此，你在很多方面设定了目标。 The problem with this is that you have a fixed amount time and energy. If you try to focus on many different goals at once, you can't give individual goals the attention they deserve. 这样做的问题是：时间与精力有限。如果你想尝试同时关注很多目标的话，那么，就不能给予个人目标上应该给与的关注。 Instead, use the "quality, not quantity" rule when setting goals. Work out the relative importance of everything that you want to accomplish over the next six to twelve months. Then pick no more than, say, three goals to focus on. 相反，在设定目标时，请利用“质量，而不是数量”的原则 。在接下来的半年到1年时间，要弄清楚想要完成的所有事情的相对重要性。然后，选择重点关注最多不超过三个目标。 Remember, the success of your work towards a goal rests on focusing on just a few things at a time. If you limit the number of goals you're working on, you'll have the time and energy you need to do things really well! 请记住，工作对目标的成功是取决于你每次关注的几件事。如果对努力的目标的数量进行了限制，那么，你就会有充足的时间和精力去把事情真正做好。  |
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Some people – family, friends, or even your boss – may want to influence the goals you set. Perhaps they feel that they know what's best for you, or maybe they want you to take a certain path or do certain things.
It takes time to accomplish goals. And sometimes it can feel that you aren't making much progress.
How you think about your goal can influence how you feel about it, and whether you achieve it.
When you start setting goals, you may see many things that you want to accomplish. So you start setting goals in all areas.
