How to Become More Extroverted

Attention Introverts: How to Become More Extroverted

 

I found there were a couple of key steps I took that helped me learn the best parts of being an extrovert, without changing my personality. Everyone needs to take their own path, but hopefully by sharing the steps that worked for me, you boost your extroversion as well.

 

Find Social Activities You Enjoy

One barrier that forces many people to be introverted is if they don’t see any enjoyable social activities around them. If you don’t like going to bars, and all the people you know are party animals (乐于参加派对的人), you might feel happier staying in.

 

Realizing this was a big step in helping me become more extroverted. I realized that there were certain events and groups of people I could be a lot more outgoing (adj.外向的) with. There were other people who I didn’t connect with. You won’t connect with everyone, so finding different groups of people is a good starting point.

 

Push Your Comfort Zone Limits

The second strategy to become outgoing is to crush any social fears you have. Everyone has limits at what they consider too gutsy (adj.大胆的勇敢的). For extreme extroverts, these limits are pushed far back. For introverts, they might be a lot closer. Pushing your comfort zone backwards makes it easier to socialize.

 

Learn the Art of Talking

You can get the gift of gab (n.爱说话) by learning to continue conversations even when you aren’t sure what to say. Just say anything. Although you may feel awkward, usually any conversation attempts will be good enough. If you can practice this, then you’ll always have a backup (n.后备) in case the conversation hits a road block.

 

The ideal way to live is to capture the best of both. To have the social skills of an extrovert with the quiet discipline and peace of mind of an introvert. If you can do that, who cares what a personality test says you are?

 

 

参考翻译：

不改变自己的性格，我发现可以通过一些练习来学习外向的人的优良特性。每个人都需要采取自己的方式，但是我希望能和大家分享对我有用的方式，你也可以外向一些。

 

找一些你喜欢的社会活动

一个让人变得内向的原因就是他能否找到他喜欢的社会活动。 如果你不喜欢去酒吧， 并且你身边的人都是派对动物，那么你可能更乐意待在家里。

意识到这一点，对我来说是一个巨大的进步。  我意识到有一些我乐意去参加的活动和团体。 当然有很多人我不会和他们交往， 问题是你不用去结识每个人， 所以找到一些你感兴趣的群体是一个很好的出发点。

 

不断突破你的舒适极限

变得更加外向的第二个方法就是粉粹那些你害怕参加的社会活动。每个人都有这样一个害怕去尝试的极限。对于非常外向的人来讲，这个极限可以向后退很多。对于内向的人，这个界限就可能靠前。不断扩大你的舒适极限，可以让你更加容易地融入这个社会。

 

学习谈话的技巧

你可以通过练习怎么去接话题，来锻炼你聊天的能力， 即使你不知道该说什么，也要努力去尝试。只要说什么就好了。即使你会感到尴尬，但是一般情况下，这样的尝试对话都是不错的。如果你能不断的练习，那么当谈话陷入僵局时，你总能够接下话题。

 

最理想的状态是同时拥有两者。拥有外向人的交流沟通的技能，同时具备内向的人平和自制和安详的心态。如果你能做到这点，谁又会关心你是内向的还是外向的呢？