9.Evolution, Emotion, and Reason: Love(Professor Peter Salovey)--心理学导论--耶鲁大学

爱情的三要素

亲密，激情，承诺intimacy, passion, and commitment

1. Intimacy is the feeling of closeness, of connectedness with someone, of bonding. Operationally, you could think of intimacy as you share secrets, you share information with this person that you don't share with anybody else.

2. Passion is the--we would say the drive that leads to romance. You can think of it as physical attraction or sex.

3.commitment ,decision or commitment, the decision that one is in a love relationship, the willingness to label it as such, and a commitment to maintain that relationship at least for some period of time

 

更容易产生爱情的条件

三大条件：
1. 空间上距离近的人

2. 相似的人

3. 熟悉的人

四小条件：

1. 有能力而又有瑕疵的人比无能力的、太完美的人更有吸引力，太完美的人因为与自己的对比会给自己不好的感觉

2. 外表上的吸引力physical attractiveness

3. 变化比稳定的状态更吸引人的注意，Gain Effect从一开始不好而变得越来越好，比一开始就保持在比较好的状态更容易吸引人的注意。Loss Effects由好变到不好，比一直不好，更容易伤害人。

4. 错误归因，被某些其他因素引起的唤醒，如害怕、紧张、运动等导致的心跳加快误认为是外貌上的吸引、爱。